HALTZMAN: Well, 10 years ago, the most common complaints that I heard had to do with people in the workplace. And that has entirely shifted, whereas the great percentage of people are getting into contact with me because their partner has been texting somebody, receiving emails, spending time messaging them on Facebook. It really has shifted how we meet people and secondarily, how we sustain connections with people after we’ve met. So I think it really has changed dramatically, even in the last 10 to 12 years.
And even if biologically, we’re attracted to somebody else, I don’t think that that’s an excuse for leaving that marriage and having a relationship with someone outside of it
MARTIN: One of the issues that you address in your book, that you say comes up often, is the argument that humans actually aren’t meant to be in monogamous relationships. The argument is that people used to die sooner than they do now, that people didn’t live as long, that there was – generally partners, you know, didn’t survive as long as they – women died in childbirth, men died in war – and that monogamy is kind of an impossible idea. What does your research say about that?
HALTZMAN: Well, you’re absolutely right. A lifetime commitment, if you married at the age of 15, was another 20 years. And now, a lifetime commitment, if you marry at the age of 25, may be 75 years. And – well, that’s being very hopeful that you’ll live to 100. Continue reading %s